Yesterday I spend an amazing day out with my husband and kids. We decided to go out for our weekly nitro brew coffee (I love this new tradition by the way) and it brought us to the water front where there is a small cafe that serves the delicious coffee drink.
From there we decided to walk down by the water, let the kids run around in the grass playing hide and seek and blowing bubbles, and then we took a long stroll until we decided to head home.
The weather was beautiful, the kids behaved (for the most part) and everything just flowed the way it was “supposed to”.
Needless to say, it was quite easy for me to enjoy my moments with my family yesterday, because it was damn near perfect.
I’m here to tell you, though, that it is worth it to enjoy the moment you are in, regardless of if it is “perfect” or not?
Being in the moment is the only way for us to be completely happy.
We can’t sit in a moment and think about the “what ifs” of the future because these “what ifs” are just speculation and not reality.
We can’t sit in that same moment and think about the “should-haves” of the past because what is done is done. Going over a way we could have changed the situation over and over is only going to create stress because we are helpless in changing what has already occurred.
We can only sit in a moment and live the current situation. Life is happening NOW so let’s live it to it’s fullest.
Here are a few tips for being more present and actually enjoying moments for what they are because, although not all of life’s moments are perfect, we can train ourselves to see the good and amplify it.
- Slow down. Slowing down is so important. If you are constantly rushing through life, no wonder you can’t enjoy the moment, you are already thinking about the what is next because your mind is moving faster than the rest of your body. So slow down, take in your surroundings. What about your surroundings makes them positive? It could be ANYTHING! From the way the leaves look blowing in the wind to the yummy flavors of a home cooked dinner to the way your kids smile at you when they are happy. I don’t care what the situation is, there is always at least one positive to any situation. If you haven’t found it yet, you aren’t looking hard enough.
- Savor. Maybe you are laying on the grass and you are focusing on the leaves blowing in the wind, instead of just letting that happen, really take it all in. The colors, the sounds, the smells. You want to savor that experience so next time you are in a similar situation, you can go straight to those leaves so that what ever experience you are in at that moment will automatically be a good one. You are training your brain to be happy in the moment.
- Link experiences. There will be times when you are in a situation you would rather not be in. Maybe, you just found out some bad news. Instead of just sitting with this bad news, link it to something you know makes you happy (like the leaves). The bad news isn’t just going to disappear from your mind, it could be with you for days, but putting yourself in a positive setting (sitting on a park bench looking up at the trees, for instance), can help you make the negatives in your life just a little more bearable. You might not magically become happier by looking up at the trees (c’mon now) but linking a positive experience to a negative one can ease the pain and it might even help you heal faster.
Those are my tips for enjoying THIS moment and ultimately being a happier person. I would love to hear your experiences and or tips for being present. Leave those below. Also, don’t forget to follow me on Facebook where I post multiple videos weekly on self care, habits, and more.