My husband and I were talking the other night about the way our kids view us.
He was saying how we see ourselves as these regular people who also happen to be parents.
Granted, he said, he loves being a dad and I love being a mom, but, being parents is just one part of who we are.
On the other hand, our kids see us as MOM and DAD.
When anything goes wrong in their lives, we are the first ones they think of to solve their problems, take their hurt away, and make them happy.
It is just so crazy that there are two little people asleep in the other room right now that see us as these super humans with all the answers.
I’m pretty sure I’m just “me” but I’m okay with sometimes taking on the super hero roll if it means I can watch their eyes light up or their “ouchies” be magically healed with a small kiss.
I think where I’m going with all of this, is that we need to keep in mind that as parents we are everything to these little people.
We might see ourselves as just average Joes and Janes who are good at some stuff but not other things, but to these kids, we are EVERYTHING and this puts some crazy, awesome responsibility in our hands.
Responsibility to be our best for them at all times.
This is where I tie all of this into self care.
We can’t be the super heroes in their lives, if we don’t feel great about ourselves!
Self care is the fastest route to feeling awesome and, I get it, it isn’t always the easiest thing to implement into your life.
There are, however, more than a few ways to start implementing simple self care practices today.
Remember, self care does not mean a weekend away at a spa (thought, that would be nice, wouldn’t it?). Self care can sometimes mean 10 minutes to focus on you, just to recharge that super hero mom status that you need to live up to.
Here are my top 5 self care practices that take 10 minutes or less.
- Meditate. I put my favorite first. Meditation has become such a game changer for me because it not only lets me relax in complete silence but it helps me sort through my thoughts and really clear out the ones that don’t matter. I usually do an 8 minute meditation right after the kids go to bed or right before they wake up.
- Put on earrings/make up. Seriously, the regular mom uniform can get so monotonous and just make us feel so much more tired than we really feel we are! Liven things up with some lipstick, pretty earrings, or even a cute scarf. Caring outwardly can really help bring out our inner vibrancy.
- Stretch! So many times I let the day get to me and I end up plopping on to the couch. I think this is what I need but it is quite opposite. My hips lock up, my lower back aches, it needs up making me feel more “blah” than before sitting down. Getting down on the carpet or on a yoga mat and stretching helps to release the tension of the day and keeps muscles and joints happy.
- Read a book. Any book that you enjoy reading. Whether you like romance or historical biographies, being taken away from the present for just 5 minutes can help you deal with reality that much better.
- Create a grocery list. I don’t know how many times I thought to myself, “if I just had a box of cookies right now…”. The thing is , the ending to that sentence is never good and the reality of a box of cookies in the cupboard can most always be avoided (of it’s something you need to avoid) by creating a grocery list and sticking to it! If you create list of healthy foods and actually purchase these foods, you will be so much less likely to have a weak moment and binge. Planning out food for the week and surrounding yourself with nourishing foods and meals is a great way to care for yourself and literally only takes about 10 minutes. Also, the more often you do it, the less time it takes. Keep a list on your phone or as a document on your computer and just add/subtract things weekly as you see fit to do so.
There you go. My top 5 self care that take 10 minutes or less. I rarely apply all of these in the same day but sprinkling a few each day through out the day keeps me sane and makes me feel like ME. In turn, this helps me be the best mom for the two best little girls in the world.
If you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or tired. Start with a few minutes of self care here and there until that becomes a habit and then start sprinkling in a little more as you feel you can.
Its not about creating these huge chunks of time where you HAVE to pamper yourself. Its about fitting it in when you can and doing it in a relaxed fashion.
Self care shouldn’t stress you out.
If you have been implementing self care and are looking for more, I truly believe a fitness and nutrition program might be right for you.
Moving your body and eating food that makes you feel optimal is a necessity for me and I believe that most moms could benefit from it as well.
I offer online personal training and nutritional coaching where I help you ease into things by implementing small habits over time. No stress, no overwhelm, just small habits that you will be able to remain consistent with.
Because the magic is in the consistency.